Caring for or spending time with someone who has dementia can be challenging, but it’s also an opportunity for deep connection, patience, and love. If you have a friend or family member with dementia, here are ten simple yet powerful ways to support them—and yourself—on this journey.

1. Dementia is not contagious.

Let’s start with the basics. Dementia is a disease, not something you can “catch.” What is contagious, however, is your kindness, patience, and willingness to be present.

2. Remove the word “remember” from your vocabulary.

Asking, “Do you remember?” can unintentionally cause frustration or distress. Instead, try reminiscing in a way that invites connection: “I was thinking about that trip we took to the beach—what a beautiful day!”

3. Do not argue with the person with dementia.

Even if what they say isn’t accurate, correcting them often leads to confusion or upset feelings. Instead of proving a point, focus on their emotions and validate their experience.

4. Do not correct the person with dementia.

Similar to arguing, correcting can be discouraging. If they say it’s Tuesday when it’s actually Thursday, does it really matter? Go with the flow whenever possible.

5. Be patient.

Their world is changing in ways we can’t fully understand. Slowing down, breathing deeply, and meeting them where they are can make all the difference.

6. Check your tone when answering the same question for the zillionth time.

It’s easy to get frustrated when you’re asked the same thing over and over. But remember—to them, it’s the first time they’re asking. A gentle, kind response will help them feel safe and supported.

7. Laugh often.

Humor is healing. It’s okay to be playful and lighthearted. I’ve even blamed my guy for something I did—of course, my smile always gives me away! Finding joy in the little moments makes the journey easier for both of you.

8. Enjoy your time and moments.

Dementia teaches us to live in the present. Treasure the moments of connection, whether it’s holding hands, sharing a meal, or simply sitting together in silence.

9. This is someone important to you—tell them you love them.

Say it often. Say it in words, in hugs, in smiles, in the way you hold their hand. Love is something they can still feel, even as their memory fades.

10. Talk about fun times.

Even if they can’t recall them, reminiscing about happy memories can bring warmth and joy. Share stories, look through old photos, and celebrate the good times you’ve had together.

💙 Dementia changes a person, but love remains. The way we choose to interact, with patience, kindness, and a sense of humor, makes all the difference. Keep showing up. Keep loving. Keep finding joy in the moments. 💙

What has helped you navigate a relationship with someone who has dementia? Share your experiences in the comments—I’d love to hear from you!